If there’s one thing you should know about me, it’s that I love individuality. When I see someone strive to be their own person, I can’t help but smile that entire day. It’s magical. I absolutely love seeing people choose to be different. My go-to, generic advice has always been: “work on yourself”. Sometimes my friends will come to me with problems and my answer to them almost always is some specific variant of those three words. I don’t claim to be some sort of lifestyle guru – I think it’s silly that that’s even a thing. (Who needs someone to tell them how to live?) I just believe that you’re always gonna be in the company of yourself, so you might as well make it interesting.
I’ve definitely gone on to a sort of self-love rant. That’s not what today’s post is gonna be, though. Today’s all about individuality. As you all may know, I’m a huge advocate for trying new things. This kinda fits right into that. I want to encourage everyone who reads this to not only try new things but to also try to do something a bit unconventional. If you’re already there, I’d love to hear about it. Like I said, nothing makes me happier than seeing someone express their individuality so drop a comment!
What’s Cookin’ Good Lookin’?
At least for myself, I’ve found that cultivating my own personal style has been my easiest accomplishment. I absolutely love clothes – almost to a fault. I remember looking around my high school one day and seeing almost exact carbon copies worn on every person there. It’s different at every school, but mine, in particular, was filled with joggers, Vans, and then a shirt from the mall. As an outfit, there’s really nothing wrong with that. It’s very inoffensive and simple. The problem to me was how I’d look around and see that exact combination and the exact same haircut at every turn. Even on fashion forums like /r/streetwear and /r/malefashionadvice, there’s an ongoing joke about how there’s a distinct “uniform”.
Disregarding what people think is a key step in this process. I’ll admit, I definitely changed up my clothes specifically for the ladies, but that was in the beginning. Now I only do this for me (getting a girlfriend probably helped). Insecurity has no place alongside individuality. Confidence is half of your outfit. I’ve found that when I look in the mirror and love what I’m wearing, I get significantly more compliments. Everybody notices when you love yourself. Slight disclaimer though: the more “out there” your outfit gets, the more weird looks you will get. Keep doing you.
This is a more personal topic for me, so I might as well give some details. I started off with a more “menswear” type of style. This means button-ups, nice pants, Sperry’s, etc. I didn’t look bad, but I also wasn’t particularly unique in my choice of clothing. Within a year, I dropped from 230lbs to 160lbs which triggered a fairly quick style change. Now, I like longer, drapey silhouettes and go for a bit more comfort than fashion. Kind of unrelated, but I’m also seriously considering getting a septum piercing. That’s a great example of something some people hate, but I love the look of. I like looking good and feeling good so my outfits have a really “cozy” vibe to them. Maybe I’ll end up showcasing some of my clothes on here sometime!
Get Weird With It
A quote from one of my role models, Frank Reynolds: “I don’t know how many years I have left…I’m gonna get reeeeeeal weird with it”. I strongly recommend you watch Always Sunny In Philadelphia. Life is way too short to not be weird. I can’t really imagine myself enjoying a super cookie-cutter life where I live the same routine day-in, day-out. I think people should just access their inner child and act weird. I can’t really say a lot about this part. Weirdness is very subjective. I guess, in this context, I mostly mean to do what makes you happy without worry about what people think.
Obviously, there are some restrictions to this. Please don’t choose to get weird at your great-aunt’s funeral or at a meet-and-greet with your district manager. Sidenote: I had a coworker make a dirty joke towards our female manager during our very first meeting. He was not my coworker for very long. Also, be weird, but don’t be obnoxious. You can be an adult while also acting like a child. If your weirdness hurts someone, please just stay normal.
This segues us well into a necessary bit:
The Grain of Salt Clause
Please, please, please take everything I say with a grain of salt. If you’re dressing up like everyone else around you and you’re happy, continue doing it! Like I said, I really can’t tell you what’s right and what’s wrong. I’m just here winging everything in my life. I throw elements of my life at a wall and see what sticks. The core of this is to encourage everyone to express their own individuality as they want. If nothing else, please remember that. Everything else I say is just fluff. Always do you.
My main method of expressing my individuality is through my clothes and the way I act. I really enjoy entertaining people and being the reason for smiles so I base my behavior as such. It’s fulfilling and I enjoy it. Same goes for my clothes. I love standing out and my appearance is one of the easiest ways to achieve that. Find out what works for you! I’d love to hear about it.
Till next time,